Sephardim/Ashkenazim This is merely a guide to the laws and customs. Please consult with your own halachic authority.

Fortune If a Jew has to have a lawsuit with a non-Jew, he should evade having it with him in the month of Av, as this is a time of ill fortune for a Jew. This should be avoided from the first of Av until the tenth of Av. Some authorities are of the opinion that one should avoid this until the fifteenth of Av.

Building and Planting When the month of Av arrives, rejoicing should be minimized. One must avoid undertaking construction projects from which pleasure will be derived or construction for the purpose of luxury. However, it is permissible for a family which lives in overcrowded conditions to expand their home. At any rate, if the construction was commenced before the first of Av, one need not stop.

One may not whitewash or paint the house from the first of Av. However, if this is necessary because, for example, the moving date is immediately after the ninth of Av, it is permissible to whitewash.

If a Jew signs a contract with a non-Jewish contractor to build, whitewash, or paint his house in a manner forbidden after the first of Av, the homeowner should request of the non- Jew to postpone the work until after the ninth of Av. If it is possible to compensate him a bit so that he wait until after the ninth of Av, this is the correct path. If not, it is permitted.

From the beginning of the month of Av it is forbidden to plant, buy, or transplant ornamental trees and plants. However, it is permissible to care for them.

Purchases and Sales From the beginning of the month of Av one should minimize transactions. Purchasing new clothing from which pleasure is derived is forbidden during the Nine Days, even if they will be worn after the Nine Days. This prohibition includes all types of clothing, even those upon which a She’hecheyanu is not recited.

It is permissible to purchase clothing, furniture, appliances, etc. during the Nine Days if they are on sale or you’ll suffer a substantial loss if you will delay the purchase. Included in this category would be an individual who finds himself in a particular locale during the Nine Days where these items can be found but are not readily available in their neighborhood.

Shoes for Tisha B’Av may be purchased during the Nine Days and worn may be worn for the first time on Tisha B’Av if they were not bought and worn before.

Meat and Wine Ashkenazim and some Sephardim refrain from consuming meat and wine during the first nine days of Av. On the first of the month itself (Rosh Chodesh), all Sephardim are permitted to eat meat and drink wine however Ashkenazim are not. Chicken is included in this prohibition. Some Sephardim only refrain from meat and wine the week Tisha B’Av falls out in. This year those Sephardim may eat meat up until Tisha B’Av.

Pareve food cooked in a clean meat pot may be eaten, even if the pot had been used for meat within the last 24 hours.

A person who is sick, a woman who has recently given birth, or somebody who must eat meat for medical reasons, is permitted to eat chicken and meat.

One is permitted to eat meat and drink wine at a seudas mitzvah such as a Bris, Pidyon Haben, Bar Mitzvah(Bo Bayom), Siyum Masechta.

The prohibition of eating meat includes boys and girls above the age of 6 if they are healthy.

Regarding the wine of Havdalah, the Sefardic custom is to permit the one saying Havdallah to drink the wine. The Ashkenazi custom is to give wine to a child to drink. If no child is available, the officiator may himself drink the wine.

Sewing Clothes One may not sew new clothes or shoes during the nine days. Neither may one knit or weave new clothes even through the agency of a non-Jewish artisan.

It is permissible to sew by the agency of a non-Jew if there is great need – for example, for a wedding which will be held immediately after the ninth of Av.

If a factory or private artisan receives a garment before the first of the month (Rosh Chodesh), it is permissible to sew it until the week of Tish B’Av.

If an artisan who lacks food to eat receives an order beforehand, he may work even on the week of Tisha B’Av.

It is permissible to mend a used garment even during the week of Tisha B’Av. Professional mending is forbidden, but sewing a button is permitted during the nine days.

The laws below apply only to Ashkenazim. For Sephardim, they apply only the week of Tisha B’Av which doesn’t apply this year since Tisha B’Av falls on a Sunday.

Bathing During the Nine Days a person may not shower or bathe for pleasure, even in cold water. Swimming or using a sauna is likewise forbidden. If, however, a person is perspired or dirty, he may shower or bathe in lukewarm water and use soap or shampoo if he or she will not become clean otherwise.

Under any circumstance, washing one’s hands, face, and feet is permitted.

It is entirely permitted to shower regularly in hot water this Friday since Rosh Chodesh falls out on Erev Shabbos.

There are numerous Poskim who permit showering or bathing in hot water with soap and shampoo on Erev Shabbos during the Nine Days, including Erev Shabbos Chazon.

Laundry & Cleaning One is permitted to polish silver or wash one’s car during this period; however, shampooing rugs would be prohibited.

It is forbidden to wash or dry clean one’s clothing & linen during the Nine Days, even if it is done by a non-Jew. Ironing clothing is also prohibited.

A sheitel is considered a garment according to halacha and may not be washed during the Nine Days. However, you may wear a freshly washed sheitel and you may also blow dry any sheitel.

It is forbidden to cut, dye, or add hair, even to an old sheitel.

It is permitted to wash out a stain from a garment if it will cause permanent damage.

One may not give garments to a dry cleaner during the Nine Days to be picked up after the Nine Days. However, one may give clothing to the cleaners before Rosh Chodesh if he picks them up after Tisha B’Av.

Small children’s clothing may be washed during the Nine Days.

Although one may not generally wash clothing during the Nine Days, there is nothing wrong with taking a garment that got wet (e.g. sprinkler or sudden rain shower) and placing it in the dryer.

One may not wear new or freshly laundered clothing or linen during the Nine Days except for underwear or socks. Suits, blouses, etc. freshly cleaned should be worn for a short period of time before the Nine Days begin.

According to most Poskim, one may wear freshly laundered or cleaned suits for Shabbos even when Tisha B’Av occurs on Shabbos.

May we merit seeing the coming of Mashiach and the rebuilding of the Bet Hamikdash speedily in our days!

Shavuot

Shavuot commemorates the giving of the Torah to the Jewish people at Mount Sinai. Unfortunately, despite its great importance and seminal place in the Jewish calendar, Shavuot has become the orphan of Jewish holidays. Chanukah, a relatively minor holiday, gets much more attention. Passover? Great family time. High Holidays? Have to go to synagogue and expunge those sins and get written in the book of life for another year. 

But Shavuot – that’s for the real religious. Nothing too exciting about this holiday. 

And this is tremendously sad, because there is probably no more important holiday when it comes to defining who we Jews are and what we have taught humanity. 

Shavuot is a bare bones holiday; it doesn’t have any specific mitzvot other than learning Torah, and that’s for a reason. It is about Torah, plain and simple, nothing more and nothing less. No Passover cleaning to distract you, nor any specifics of how much matzah to eat to fulfill the mitzvah; no finding a flawless lulav and etrog; no perfect Chanukah gift; no getting to shul early so you get a good seat for Yom Kippur. 

No, none of that; just a return to the very essence of who and what we are, why we are here and what our greater obligation is to the world to make it a better place with the fundamental truths that we have given it. Shavuot is dusting off the wedding album and going back to the chuppah – the marriage canopy. Shavuot is about re-turning to that place where it all started and reminding ourselves of the true purpose of Torah and why God brought us to Sinai. 

It’s about staying up all night as you lose yourself in the depth and meaning of Torah learning, recommitting yourself to the marriage the Jewish people entered with God at Mount Sinai. 

Reasons for eating Dairy Foods on Shavout 

There is a universal Jewish tradition of eating dairy foods on Shavuot. Various reasons have been suggest-ed, among them: 

1. The Biblical book Song of Songs (4:11) refers to the sweet nourishing value of Torah by saying: “It drips from your lips, like honey and milk under your tongue.” 

2. The verse in Exodus 23:19 juxtaposes the holiday of Shavuot with the prohibition of mixing milk and meat. On Shavuot, we, therefore, eat separate meals – one of milk and one of meat.

3. Upon receiving the Torah at Mount Sinai, the Jews immediately became obligated in the laws of Sh’chita – slaughter of animals. Since they did not have time to prepare kosher meat, they ate dairy in-stead. 

4. The numerical value of milk – chalav – is 40. This hints to the 40 days that Moses spent atop Mount Sinai, and the 40 years the Jews spent wandering the desert. 

Laws and Customs of Purim

Megillat Esther

• The Scroll of Esther is read publicly in the evening and on the morning of Purim. Men and Women are obligated to hear the megillah both times.
  
• It must be read from a scroll written in accordance with Halachah.
  
• The reader and the audience must have the intent to fulfill the mitzvah of reading and to fulfill the obligation of the blessings before and after.
  
• It is customary to make noise when the name of Haman is mentioned.
  
• It is forbidden to speak from the time of the blessings before the reading, until the end of the blessings after the reading.
  

Prayer

• The prayer ‘al hanissim’ is added in the Silent Prayer (Shmoneh Esrei) and in Grace after Meals (Birkat Hamazon). If one forgot ‘al hanissim’ one does not repeat the prayer.
  
• During the morning service (shacharit), the Torah is read. The prayer of repentance, tachanun, is not recited, nor is the prayer lamenatzeach.

Mishloach Manot/Gifts of Food

• One is obligated to give at least one gift to one fellow Jew. The more the better.
• The gift must consist of at least two items of food or drink, ready to eat. It is preferable to send the gift via a third party. Matanot L’evyonim/Gifts to the poor
• One is obligated to give a gift of money, sufficient for one meal, to at least two poor people. The more the better.
• Funds must be available on the day of Purim. (No post-dated checks.)
• It is preferable to take care of this obligation early in the day.
• The gift may be given to a third party in order to distribute on the day of Purim. More should be spent on gifts to the poor than on gifts to friends (unless they are also poor).

Seudat Purim/The Purim Feast

• It is obligatory to partake of a festive meal on the day of Purim.
• One should drink more wine than one is accustomed to.
• It is proper to invite guests, especially the needy.
• The conversation should be focused on the words of the Torah.

Customs

• Many have a custom to dress up in costumes.
• It is customary to give charity to all who ask.

A thought on this week’s Parsha…

“A hundred sockets for a hundred kikar…” (38:27)

There’s an elderly lady who sits in a nursing home in New York. Every day, this is what she says, “Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift of G-d. That’s why we call it the present.”

How does a person sensitize himself to the present that is the here-and-now? Our Sages mandated that we recite at least one hundred blessings every day. Making blessings helps to remind us constantly of all the blessings that surround us: The ability to see, to think, to enjoy the smell of fruit and flowers, the sight of the sea or great mountains, the sight of royalty, eating a new season fruit, or seeing an old friend for the first time in years. We have blessings when a baby is born, when a loved one dies. When we surround ourselves with blessings we surround ourselves with a blessing. The Hebrew word beracha (blessing) is linked to the word bereicha which means a pool of water. G-d is like an Infinite Pool of blessing, flowing goodness and enrichment into our life.

Among other things, a beracha must include is the Hebrew word which means “L-rd”, which comes from the root adon. In the construction of the Mishkan (the portable Temple on which G-d caused His Presence to dwell) there were exactly 100 “sockets.” These sockets were called adanim. What is the connection between the 100 adanim and the hundred times that we call G-d by the name “Adon” in our daily blessings?

Just as the adanim were the foundation of the Mishkan through which G-d bestowed his Holy Presence on the Jewish People, so too are our daily blessings the foundation of holiness in our lives.

• Source: Chidushei HaRim

Wishing you all a Shabbat Shalom,
Rabbi Avi and Miriam Mammon & family

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Parsha Summary for Parshat Vayakhel-Pekudai by Rabbi Tendler

1st Aliya: The Parsha begins with the Mitzvah of Shabbat and the penalty for her transgression. Note that Pasuk 35:5 is classic proof of the Oral Law. Those who deny the Oral Law must explain the literal translation of this verse to prohibit having any burning flame on Shabbos. This would forbid the use of lights, heat, and even Shabbos candles! It is the Oral Law which teaches us that the G-d’s prohibition was directed at lighting a fire, not having a fire. Moshe asked the Bnai Yisroel to donate the time, talents, and materials for the construction of the Mishkan. The Bnai Yisroel responded with unbridled enthusiasm.

2nd Aliya: Talents and materials were donated and Betzallel and Oholiav were appointed as chief architects and artists. The response to Moshe’s appeal was so great that Moshe had to command the people to stop their donations! (see, miracles do happen!) The outer coverings of the Mishkan and the inner tapestries are detailed. The beams of the Mishkan, the Aron Hakodesh, and the Shulchan – Table are described.

3rd & 4th Aliyot: The Menorah and the inner Golden Altar are described. The outer ramped Altar, the Washstand, and the Mishkan’s surrounding enclosure are detailed. Pekudei begins with an accounting of the materials used in the construction of the Mishkan. (gold = 4,386.5 lb./ silver = 15,088.75 lb./ copper = 10,620 lb.)

5th & 6th Aliyot: The Kohein Gadol’s breastplate and vest are described. The remaining garments of the Kohein Gadol and the other Kohanim are detailed, and Moshe inspects the completed Mishkan. Moshe certifies that the entire project followed the exact details of Hashem’s instructions. Moshe blesses the workers.

7th Aliya: On the 1st day of Nissan, 2449, the Mishkan was assembled. After every vessel was properly in place, the presence of Hashem, the Shechina, descended in a cloud and filled the Mishkan.

We celebrate the fruit and trees on the 15th of Shvat, at a time when there are no fruit or flowers to be seen. Frost (and often snow) is covering the trees, the days are short, nights are long, darkness and despair reign. And yet, with insight, seeing beyond the surface, we know that deep within the tree the sap is rising, preparing the tree for the blooming and blossoming that will occur in the springtime.

It is through realizing that there is going to be growth in the future, that potential will eventually come to fruition, that we celebrate the holiday for the trees. This is the trait of “binah” – the insight that Jewish women are known to have. We need to see beyond the facts and surface reality; we need to see potential and hope for a brighter future. Taking a leadership role means acting upon this vision, affecting change in our communities and in our society, by influencing the people around us to have that same hope and optimism, and help to bring to fruition the dormant potential within each and every one of us.

The first mitzvah the Jewish people ever received as a nation is a mitzvah to celebrate and sanctify the new moon. “This month is the first of the months for you, the first among the months of the year” (Exodus, 12:2). This mitzvah also expresses the need to see beyond the here and now to a brighter tomorrow. When we actually celebrate the first of the month, Rosh Chodesh, the moon itself is barely visible!

“The reason why the Jews count according to the lunar calendar is that the moon is at times completely dark and you don’t see in it any light at all, and yet even at its darkest, we always know that it will soon be light again. And that is specifically when we celebrate Rosh Chodesh.” (Slonimer Rebbe, Netivot Shalom, Parshat Bo)

Interestingly enough, women have a special connection to Rosh Chodesh. They have the custom to avoid certain types of work and celebrate a mini-holiday every Rosh Chodesh, more than men do, as a reward for having refused to contribute their jewelry for the infamous Golden Calf project. (Midrash Pirkei d’Rabbi Eliezer, 45).

When the men lost hope, as Moshe delayed in coming down from the Mt. Sinai after 40 days, they immediately scrambled to create an alternative intermediary between God and themselves. The women, however, were able to stay focused on the bigger picture and see beyond the despair of the moment.

Let us utilize this power of seeing beyond the surface and focusing on potential and through that build towards a brighter and better future.